What is Success for YOU?

For many, success is some form of material achievement in the world, for others, it is recognition and applause, for some others, it is the journey that generates satisfaction of success. Yet others avoid pursuit of success altogether for fear of failure. 

What does success mean to me? 

Is it simply getting an admission to Ivy school, or getting a great job, award won, mountain climbed, target hit, or leaving a legacy behind? 

Whatever you believe “success” to be will have a profound influence on your life. If you were to follow the predominant mindset in the world today then success would likely be measured by acquisition. The more you have the more successful you are. For most of us, the success tends to be context specific such as sporting success or success in business, academics, science, politics, religion, spirituality, etc. 

However, if we don’t contemplate this question deeply then it’s likely we will blindly follow others ideas and measures of success, usually learned in childhood, craved in youth and pursued into our adult years. 

Inner Success 

When we take time out, however, and reflect on what exactly personal success is, we may notice a deepening of our awareness; awareness of our inner success and we may realize that personal success comes in ways that we seldom recognize as signs of success! 

Inner success looks and feels more like the capability than the success and enables us: 

• To act with total honesty and integrity thus generating a clear conscience without which the authentic happiness that we call contentment is impossible. 
• To remain peaceful and stable when all around you are in crisis or chaos. 
• To value what you are more than what you have. 
• To accept full responsibility for all thoughts, feelings, words and actions. 
• To be able to see past the mistakes of others and focus on their inherent strengths. 
• To be able to let go of the past. 
• To give without the desire for anything in return. 

So before you set on the path to contextual success, reflect on what success really means to you. It will of course generate many other questions such as what is the purpose of my life. What do I value? But when it comes to this unique and special journey called life, there is a time when the asking ‘right questions’ is much more important than having the right answers. 

Question: What does success mean to you? 

Reflection: Why do you think your definition of success might be challenging to achieve (scribble some notes to yourself) 

Action: Initiate a conversation sometime this week with friends, family or colleagues and ask them what success means to them.  

Adapted from Mike George’s article “What is Success for YOU?” © 2012

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What Are YOU Worth?

During the last two decades the concepts of self-worth and self-esteem have exploded onto the landscape of personal development with a flurry of books, courses, experts and opportunities promising to repair, restore and improve them. 

Most people value family, friends and their health. Relationships with family and friends allow people to give and receive love and good health gives them peace. What people really want is peace & love which in turn give them contentment that brings happiness. These are human assets that create highest levels of vibrations within our consciousness. 

And yet there appears to be a conspiracy to confuse! We grow up learning to measure our worth in quantifiable terms such as the amount of money we earn, the size of our home, our position at work or the car we drive; we all seem to learn to build our sense of self-worth and self-esteem around ‘things’.

What we seldom notice is how we sustain these illusions about our self-worth and self-esteem and then, through our behaviors and conversations, pass them on to the next generation. At the heart of almost all these illusions of worth and esteem is one fundamental confusion; we mistake our net-worth for our self-worth and in doing so we don’t realize we are diminishing our value!

Net-worth is material and tangible while our self-worth is non-material and intangible. One is measurable in quantitative terms while the other is only ‘felt’ in qualitative terms. One can be stored and accumulated for a rainy day while the other does not need to be stored. One is known when it is acquired and counted while the other can only be known when it is given away i.e. you can only know your self as a source of love when you give your love away. 

And this is why there can never be an expert in self-worth and self-esteem except your self. Only you know your own value but only in the moment when you give of your self selflessly. And paradoxically that’s the moment when you least need to know and feel any value, any worth. That’s the moment when you are not ‘estimating’ your self.

In fact, if the truth be known, just as you cannot love your self, for love is what you are, so too you cannot estimate your self, you cannot ‘value’ your self. The ascribing of value requires a subject and an object and the self cannot be both a subject and object at the same time. Perhaps this is why no one ever succeeds in restoring their self-worth but only continues in a vain with misinformed attempts to do the impossible. Perhaps this is why the self-esteem and self-worth industries just keep on growing. There is no cure for a disease that ultimately does not exist except the realization of its non-existence!

Question: When you sometimes say, “I really value my self”, what is it that you believe you are valuing? 

Reflection: Why might it be impossible to esteem your self?

Action: Say to three people this week, “I hold you in high esteem”, and then reflect and contemplate on what you really meant.

Adapted from Mike George’s article, “What Are YOU Worth?” © 2010

Walking the Meditator’s Path

Meditation is a natural experience of healing. The word ‘meditation’ comes from the Latin mederi, ‘to heal’: the call of spirit to the peace within. Meditation enables us to experience peace, heals us from suffering & stress from daily living and leads us to the ultimate destination of the freedom of our spirit.

Inspirations: Meditation draws together spirit, our conscious; mind, our faculty of creation that shapes our lives; and intellect, our inner eye that turns our inspiration into reality. Realization: Meditation leads us to create inner peace through self-realization and by casting aside our many false identities. Meditation teaches us to contemplate ourselves using our purest thoughts (such as, I am a spirit, and, my original and eternal nature is peace).

Compassion: As our spiritual self-awareness becomes stronger, our ability to discern, to remain calm amid life's turbulence and the capacity for empathy and compassion toward others improves.

Revelation: A simple exercise demonstrates the capacity of meditation for revealing what is true. Bring to mind your name, but do not associate it with yourself. Hold the image of its letters in your mind and speak it silently to yourself. What does it mean? Does it connect with your true identity? By focusing your mind fully on the essence of the word, you experience a fundamental truth: our name has no importance and no true relation to who we are; it is merely a practical convenience.

Expansion: Expanding meditation to whole thoughts, experiences or actions will expand our spiritual awareness; enables us to sense suffering and decency in the world. Detach from sorrow and pain around us to deepen the connection with life. This meditation is of the most practical kind.

Meditation: It is best to find a quiet, empty space. Start with ten or fifteen minutes per day with a guided commentary - a recording by an experienced meditator who can lead you into ‘soul consciousness’; lengthen the time, if you wish when you can comfortably do so without the guided commentary. Soft lighting can help the ambiance. At the end of the session, reflect on your experience, and note how your mood has changed, and how valuable the meditation has been.

The deepest, most empowering form of meditation will gently focus on the self as a spirit that is a point of radiant spiritual light. In this gentle illuminating awareness, we can truly experience our self as the master of every thought and action with inner peace radiating and permeating through everything we do and say.

Along the ‘meditators path’ many have reported an opening to a higher power, a divine power that touches, teaches and transforms.

Action: Take ten minutes each day this week to relax your body, gently concentrate your mind and meditate on two simple thoughts – I am the light of spirit and my true nature is peace.

Adapted from Mike George’s article© 2010, Walking the Meditator's Path.

What Do You Say Near The End Of Their Days?

Perhaps one of the greatest challenges we may face one day (if we haven’t already) is to be with someone who knows they only have a limited time left to live. How do we comfort such a person without suffering our self and identifying our self with this person? For, if we suffer with them, we would need comforting our self and hence cannot offer an authentic comfort to them. We could comfort them with idea underpinning many religious, spiritual philosophies and near or return from death experiences.

Death is the ‘nature’s way’ of allowing all living spices to exist on the Earth. We all have to gracefully surrender to nature, to death that is a doorway to another life, a new chapter; it is the nature’s way of liberating us from pain and transitioning us to a new beginning. It is the cause of celebration, not sorrow. It is the nature’s way of renewing the nature.

The fear of what is going to happen at the time of death is not the fear of unknown but a fear of leaving behind and losing all that was known, owned and held on to, such as our body, property, memories, etc. A wise old saying that goes something like this – if you die before you die then when you die you don’t die! Thus if, all attachment is consciously released before the moment (of death) when the ‘I’ has to say goodbye, then slipping out of the awareness of this past life, moving on from all that was accumulated, is easy and painless and entirely liberating.

Everything happens for a reason and there is benefit in everything, including the time of death. Known arrival of death gives a person a chance to tie up loose ends. It is a window of opportunity to say a loving farewell to everyone and leave the legacy of a memory in everyone’s mind of how to die with grace and dignity, how to move on with love in their heart and light in their eyes. Some people may not be open to seeing this ‘opportunity’ to say sorry, or say good luck, or say goodbye or say I love you.

In the true story of the woman whose husband died and said the first thing when came back to life, “Death is wonderful. No one should fear death!” Almost all of the ‘near death’ and ‘return from death’ experiences, share the same theme that there is a radiant, unconditionally loving light awaiting to embrace and enfold them once the person leaves their mortal coil. But their scepticism may still be too great to hear such stories.

Alternatively, you could simply hold their hand; sit with them in silence as a detached observer giving love to them. It is an invitation for them to join you, then all resistance comes to an end and a quiet acceptance takes its place. A serene and peaceful passing is then much more likely. There may even be a shared moment of joy.

Adapted from Mike George’s article© 2010, What Do You Say Near The End Of Their Days?

Forward Thinking – Another New Beginning!

The old year has gone, a new year has begun. Some make resolutions, others prefer to live now and yet others plan for the future. Powerful thoughts have proved to be effective and by making them your starting point, you can map your life and destiny. To that end, 1) determine which of the following type or types best describe your future inclination; 2) ask 3 people how they see their lives unfolding in the coming year, ask them questions to help them grow their vision and ask them to ask you similar questions to help you grow your vision of your future.

The Worrier

When we worry, we create a fear of unknown. It drains mental energy, distracts us from contentment of the present time and even if the catastrophe may never happen, it does ‘interfere’ with our personal well being and the health of our relationships over time.

The Hoper

Some people look to the future and simply hope for the best. They have not fully realized that their future is in their hands. They are not confident and are likely to see themselves as dependent on external sources.

The Follower

There are those who think within the confines of, and impressed by perceptions and thoughts of others; they are easily influenced and guided by others. Frequently, such people are not able to bring reigns of their thoughts, feeling and life under their control.

The Wanter

These people ‘desire’ their way into the future. Their forward thinking sounds like a laundry list of desires. When such the list of desires is not fulfilled, it brings unhappiness. They have yet to realize that they have the “will power” to get what they want.

The Dreamer

There are those who can be frequently observed drifting into a dream of panacea, “everything is going to be just wonderful”. They are even less inclined to dream to make something happen, their future never unfolds the way they had dreamed.

The Aimer

The goal setter is extremely concerned with controlling how their future unfolds. They will likely break their life down into different areas & set and strategize goals in each one. They are well organized & highly focused but fail to smell roses of achievements.

The Seer

The visionary either knows what lies up ahead or they know whatever they envision for their life is likely to evolve in the most natural way. The visionary forces nothing, least of all thoughts about the future; they have clear awareness of their responsibility.

Adapted from Mike George’s article “Forward Thinking – Another New Beginning!” © 2010

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New Year's Message From Dadi Janki

Administrative Head of the Brahma Kumaris



Dear Friends,

On the threshold of 2012 we are uncertain about what time may hold for us. Ours is a time in which there are two energies at work: an ascending energy and a descending energy.

We are reminded constantly of the descending energy and its destabilizing effects on the world, increasing feelings of fear, anxiety and hopelessness.

Perhaps less visible, but assuredly more powerful, is the ascending energy. Like new growth below the ground in late winter, ascending energy is working quietly in the hearts and minds of people everywhere, shaping a new story. We see it in the surge of those seeking spiritual truth and in the hundreds of thousands of civil society organizations requesting transparency, authenticity, and a return to values.

We have a choice about which energy we affiliate with, about where we put our support. We make this choice at the level of thought. When we allow anger, greed, or fear into our thoughts, we strengthen the descending energy, and we lose our capacity for generosity and mercy.

When we meet situations with peace, love, and persistent happiness, when we are careful not to say or think anything that would hurt another's heart, we amplify the energy of ascent.

We find these qualities inside of ourselves, as they have always been our true nature. But to find them ready in moments of need, we have to nurture them daily. To make the greatest contribution to the world at this time, keep the fire of goodness alive in your heart and mind. Fill yourself with the energies of peace, love and happiness and let them infuse your every action.

With love
BK Janki

Happy New Year: 2012

Are YOU a Free Spirit?

Our favorite greeting at this time of year is, “Happy New Year!” Looking back, we are likely to see previous new years weren’t that new or happy at all but simply more of the same old sanskar and unhappiness all around! Authentic happiness is irrevocably intertwined with freedom! Freedom comes from change from within and change from within comes by burying our old habits and starting and setting new sanskar in our life. Here are seven of the most common ‘prison bars’ that make up the cell in which we imprison our self to ‘serve out’ the time of our life… unhappily! Identify your prison bars that imprison you and consciously work daily to break them to set yourself truly free for authentic happiness.

BLAMING: We make our self a prisoner of the belief that others are responsible for our present and future predicament. Freedom is restored when we end all blame and take complete responsibility for our thoughts and feelings.

COMPLAINING: We make our self a prisoner of how we believe and therefore think circumstances ‘should be’. Freedom is won when we accept everything as it is and everyone as they are at any and every given moment. If we want to improve things, we must find a happy way to improve them.

CRITICISING: We make our self a prisoner of our ‘idea’ of how others ‘should’ behave. Freedom is regained when we ‘let it be’ and realize that each person is playing their part, dancing their dance, in the musical drama we call life!

ARGUING: We make ourselves prisoners of our own opinions, and the belief that we are ‘right’. Freedom is only attained when we re-affirm the idea that each is entitled to their opinion.

POSSESSING: We make our self prisoners of what we believe we possess. Freedom is achieved only when we mentally ‘let go’ and remember nothing is ‘mine’, thereby changing our relationship with all that we may have gathered in our life.

SELF-LIMITING: We make our self prisoners when we identify with an image of our incapabilities! Freedom is restored when we realize that there is nothing we cannot learn to do if we are prepared to embrace our failures as well as our successes.

WORRYING: We make our self a prisoner of our own fears based on our imaginary speculations about a dark future. Freedom is only possible when we realize that what we think and do today create ‘our tomorrow’.

Now that we know where our authentic happiness lies, shouldn’t our greeting for the New Year be as follows?

Wishing YOU New Freedom Next Year!

The Way to Change

Why can it be so hard to change our self? We’ve made all the attempts; read the books, attended retreat, sought advice …yet nothing changed or changed insignificantly.

A successful chief executive, disillusioned with his life happened to come across an ice cream seller and ordered an ice cream, “Please make me one with everything!”, and handed over his twenty-dollar bill and asked for the change when he picked up his ice cream. At which point the ice cream seller put both his hands together bowed, and replied, “Ah, but all change must come from within!”

It seems obvious that we have to do our own work and change our selves from inside out. Yet we still look around for help to change our self. Reason? We have not yet realized how deeply we need to go within ourselves to empower our self for the necessary change we seek. Changing a habit of action is not enough to change our self. Just as, we must pull the weeds along with the roots to get rid of them permanently, changing how we think, what we feel, how we perceive requires us to go deeply within us and pull out their roots and that requires energy. This energy comes from four daily practices that enable us to access our inner power and innate wisdom to make this change permanently.

Daily Meditation to Access our Inner Power

The practice of meditation gives you access to the core of your being where you always find your inner peace. Meditation is the practice of connecting with the power of your peace in order to remain calm while the world around you prefers chaos and crisis.

Daily Study to Bring Out Inner Wisdom

This is the practice of using your mind and intellect to explore spiritual ideas. This will involve the ‘contemplation’ of the wisdom and insight of others to begin with. We must use those insights as signposts to trigger the ‘realization’ of our own wisdom and insight to demolish the old belief systems.

Daily Application for Learning from Experience

The power of our realization brings change in us. Make those changes practical by recognizing that each relationship is an opportunity to apply our power, our realizations and our new insights without imposing them on others. This enables us to take back conscious control of our own thoughts and feelings from others.

Daily Contribution for Our Consciousness

Our ingrained notion that the purpose and success in life is to acquire and accumulate causes the most personal stress and suffering. Changing our habit of wanting and taking, and freeing our self from the worry and insecurity, is only possible when we consciously seek opportunities every day to give with no expectation of return.

Adapted from Mike George’s article© 2010, The Way to Change.

Thank You

Thank you. We have come a long way in our culture in using these two important and necessary words. We now often use these two beautiful words to express our gratitude to someone who is courteous to us or who helped us or inspired us for something better in our life. Though we use these words often, very few times they emanate from our heart with pure intentions of goodwill for the person who has facilitated us at that moment that was important to us.

Our feeling of gratitude may emerge as a result of big acts or very simple acts performed by others that made us happy or relieved us from burden or worry, for example in a situation wherein our partner helps us out in cleaning, shopping or cooking. This feeling shows us how important it is to step out of our busy demanding work life and help our friends and Family.

Our life is a journey and everyone plays a meaningful role during this journey before reaching our destination. What makes our journey more enjoyable, fulfilling and pleasant are the experiences and the people we meet during this journey. Thus it is important to bring change in our own nature (behavior) to accept and love others for who they are and in the process, God, the Ultimate gardener, will clean our heart and plant the seeds of love, wisdom, happiness and purity so that a new world filled with fragrance of virtues and values emerge.

So this month let's thank everyone and all situations (Good or Bad) which have mould our life strengthened our character. Let us make a resolution to build a life style which helps us in earning blessing of thanks from everyone who enters our life.

Success and Celebration

Success and Celebration! Wow! These words generate a pleasant feeling for doing something big and sharing the joy of a favorable outcome with positive energy and enthusiasm with your friends and family. Upon arriving at the moment of celebration, most of you will be very happy and possibly visualizing your next successful moments!

Now pause for a moment and think about these successful moments when there was a feeling of joy within us and a sense of happiness for celebrating and sharing with friends and family. When we share our success and joy, we get an insight and a chance to understand ourselves and what True Success and True Celebration are to us. In this process, we might also come across a few of our achievements where we got Success and celebrated it but the sense of Joy and happiness was missing.

What is the cause of the difference between these two celebrations? In our busy lives, sometimes we tend to be superfluous where success is closely associated with just the end result but the path traveled to attain the success is ignored or that the sympathy for other who have not yet succeeded is not felt consciously within us or that the sacrifice of others in your own success is not recognized. These are some of the reasons that deprive us subconsciously from true feeling and the joy of celebration.

True success is a feeling of happiness, a sense of joy, where our inner consciousness feels that you have honestly succeeded and you feel the pride of true and inclusive accomplishment. Such a success brings a real celebration from within and our heart starts dancing with the tunes of satisfaction, joy and lightness.

How do you stay close to a true Success? Knowledge and meditation help us to live a life aligned with the values and principles which will help us make right decisions and every action we take will leave us with a sense of joy and celebration.

Dushera & Diwali are a celebration of the awakening of the individual to his or her true nature by winning over his own weaknesses. One's true nature consists of peace, love, bliss and inner joy. When awakened, these qualities bring new meaning to life.

Wish you such a Happy Dushera & Diwali filled with wealth of knowledge, Happiness, Joy and celebration of true success of self-mastery and self-sovereignty.

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